How many times have young moms been in the trenches and needed someone older to swoop us up in their seasoned survivor arms, hug us tight and remind us of the truth? How many times have we not cried out for help because we were ashamed to? Because someone along the way told us that asking for help meant weakness? Tired, worn out and frustrated mamas – this is for you.
No long post today. Starting with the ridiculously long title and the use of the word “just”, this will actually go against all the rules of blogging but I don’t care. These two simple sentences are something I desperately needed someone to tell me once upon a time when going through the hardest thing I’ve ever endured in my life.
I’m currently reading a book and going through the online bible study, Come With Me, by Suzanne Eller. I’m not very far into the book but these two questions captured me and I’ve been camping out on it for a while.
“Have you ever had someone ask you to do something that makes no sense in the natural? What do you do if that request comes from Jesus?” Come with Me, Suzanne Eller
It was 2:30 A.M. and I awoke with an urgency in my spirit like never before. I needed to pray for my son. Our son Caleb was in Indonesia at the time so I laid in bed and prayed. “Lord please be with him.” I thought I could go back to sleep but there was no way. My soul was restless with urgency and I began to cry, and cry out to our mighty God for his safety, his health, over and over again. It was a good 45 minutes to an hour before I had peace and could go back to bed.
A few years ago my family visited The Coliseum in Rome. I honestly hadn’t done my research and went with a blasé tourist mindset of getting to see this amazing structure and experience its rich history. What I wasn’t prepared for was the overwhelming sense of despair and depravity I felt as I listened to the tour guide’s voice in my ear buds explain that the victor and the challenger (often a slave or purposefully weaker creature) would fight to the death. The choreographers would start out with small animals in order to ease and tease the crowd into it and work their way up to humans. This was all done for the sheer pleasure of those in the stands salivating to see blood and gore as someone or something died.
I am completely honored and grateful to have been included in Maple Alps’ incredible 15-week interview series, #WomenOfIntention16. Being a woman of intention hasn’t always been a focus for me. A lot of my life has been about doing the next thing that seemed right by the rule book and honored God but living daily with intentionality in specific areas wasn’t something I considered with much depth. In my wiser years, however, and with a feeling of not having time to squander, being intentional has become very much of a priority as well as a necessity.
Here’s an excerpt from my post entitled “Women of Intention: Friendships“. I hope you’ll click on the “read more” link to read the entire post and share your thoughts here or on Maple Alps, or on the EPFH Facebook page, on the topic of being intentional in your friendships. Please share this post if you enjoyed it or found it helpful. Using the #WomenOfIntention16 will help us spread encouragement to women all over the globe to make living their lives of intention a priority.
WHAT WOULD YOU SAY TO ENCOURAGE SOMEONE WHO IS STRUGGLING WITH INTENTIONALITY IN THIS AREA OF THEIR LIFE?
If you’re struggling to find friends or keep friends, take a look at the kind of friend you are. Be the kind of friend you want to have. Grasping this in my life was such a turning point. Take a look at the kind of people you are hanging around with. Someone once told me that we become like the 5 people we hang around with the most. Who do you want to become? Narrow your focus to finding those 5 people or those 5 types of people. If we are constantly looking for others to come to us, to fill us rather than the focus being on us filling others then we will likely live unfulfilled and disappointed. We should make the effort to become someone we would like if we expect others to like us too. Simply profound.
Be the friend you want to have. History has proven to me that in doing so, friends will find you!
Be sure to spend some time perusing Maple Alps‘ site. Amanda is an accomplished communicator and encourager. I think you will find her lifestyle blog quite fun and refreshing.
That title, though… arrogant much? Hang with me. I’m going somewhere and I promise it’s not about me. It’s about him. It’s about us. It’s about together.
I’ve visited the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier in Arlington National Cemetery. It was raining that day. Fitting. I remember the heaviness I felt as I wondered how many families and friends lost a loved one and had no resolution.
“A man’s heart plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps.” Proverbs 16:9
I’ve lived in a lot of towns but the town I call my hometown would be the small yet rapidly growing town of Lake Jackson, Texas. The city was developed in the early 1940’s by the founder of Dow Chemical, Alden B. Dow, as a company town for employees and their families.