That’s not very motivational or uplifting, is it? That’s not typically what we hear. That’s not typically what we even want to hear.
We generally hear, albeit from well-meaning and loving people, that we are enough. That we can do it all. Press on Christian soldier! You’ve got this!!
Well, we aren’t enough. I can’t do it all and while I might be a Christian soldier, I definitely DON’T have this.
Telling ourselves that we are enough, that we can do it all, that we don’t need anyone else that we’ve got this… it’s a setup. A setup for disappointment. A setup for failure. And possibly a setup for a crash and burn like we’ve never experienced. I know this is a story blog but honestly there are too many stories to tell on myself here. Just use your imagination and conjure one up. It probably happened. 🙂
For most of my life I’ve bought into the lie that I was enough and if I wasn’t I needed to be enough. That it was up to me to be enough. Then when I wasn’t, or when I couldn’t, I expected those around me my husband, my friends, and even my kids, to fulfill that “enough hole” in me. So often I have put my husband in place of God and expected him to make me whole. Expected him to fix my broken pieces. Lord knows he tried and still tries because he loves me. But… He. just. can’t. do. that. That is just way too much pressure to put on anyone. When we try to make others fill our “enough hole”, so often we wear them flat out and they walk away. Which continues the cycle of feeling like a failure because I wasn’t enough for that person. So we pick ourselves up by the bootstraps, try it again on our own, fail, try leaning on someone else to help us be enough and fail… you know the drill.
I’ve written previously about how we are all just walking each other home. So yes, we need each other – like coffee needs cream. But we simply can’t expect anyone else to fill our need for enoughness.
Only God can do that.
There is such freedom for my heart in that. Your heart.
I’m not enough. And you know what? Neither are you. We never will be this side of Heaven. And that is ok. It really is.
Because there’s grace.
And if no one gives you grace, do yourself a favor and at least give it to yourself. Because God did. And His grace is enough. Always has been. Always will be.
My grace is enough; it’s all you need.
My strength comes into its own in your weakness.
Once I heard that, I was glad to let it happen. I quit focusing on the handicap and began appreciating the gift. It was a case of Christ’s strength moving in on my weakness. Now I take limitations in stride, and with good cheer, these limitations that cut me down to size—abuse, accidents, opposition, bad breaks. I just let Christ take over! And so the weaker I get, the stronger I become. 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 (The Message)