Listen up, young moms, this is for you! I sit here today writing this, just days away from it being my last Mother’s Day with children living in our home. Our baby has grown up and is about to fly. I’ve been at this motherhood gig for almost 3 decades now. I think about our oldest daughter who is doing such a phenomenal job at raising our first grandchild but how often she needs a cheerleader.
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How many times have young moms been in the trenches and needed someone older to swoop us up in their seasoned survivor arms, hug us tight and remind us of the truth? How many times have we not cried out for help because we were ashamed to? Because someone along the way told us that asking for help meant weakness? Tired, worn out and frustrated mamas – this is for you.
We all have a mom. This is a simple fact of life. We may call her mother, birth mom, mama, or mommy but we all came from a woman’s womb. No matter our age or situation, I believe every kid longs to have a mother that makes them feel loved and special. Kids don’t need perfection. I don’t even think kids expect perfection. We might catch ourselves saying, “I wish my mom was…” or “I wish my mom would…” Or we might catch ourselves saying, “I’m so glad my mom was…” or I’m so thankful my mom did…”. Sometimes we realize this by having the mom of our dreams and sometimes we realize this by having a mom who isn’t the mom of our dreams. Regardless, we all have moms and there is something to be grateful for, even if it’s simply our heartbeat. Each life has a purpose. We should rejoice in the healthy relationships we have with our moms and give ourselves permission to grieve the relationships we might wish we had.
We moms go through most of our years wondering if we’re doing anything right. Wondering if we’re screwing up our kids. Wondering if they hear anything we’re saying. Wondering if they have any clue how much we love them. As a seasoned mom and with only one left at home (and even she has one foot already out of the nest) I can look over my past mom years and wonder no more.
When we ponder the times we live in today compared to the times of yore, we live in a place with more chaos, more complexity and more choices. While some of that can be good, it brings with it plenty of nonsense. Life really was simpler back in the day. (When you say “back in the day”, that’s how you know you’re old.) Things are not simple now. In my somewhat nonsensical world, I thought I might jot down a few things that make sense. It helps to put a positive spin on what is often overwhelmingly negative.