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Healing Resources for Betrayed Wives

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Healing Resources for Betrayed Wives

I’ve compiled a listing of trusted resources and information from my personal betrayal trauma healing journey. This is not an exhaustive list by any stretch. I wanted to include a few things mainly for a wife who is at the beginning or early stages of her path to healing. These are all things I needed early on as well as a few newer options that I wish I would have found sooner. A couple of the resources I share have “sexual addiction” in the title or description. While addiction may not be the case in every husband’s story, I found the information in these resources to be beneficial in my healing journey.

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The Difference Between Expectations and Hope

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The Difference Between Expectations and Hope

 

 

 

 

 

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Disclaimer: I wrote this for a talk I presented to wives healing from marriage betrayal trauma. I am posting it as I gave it for us and others who are on this same journey. However, the crux of the message can apply to everyone who struggles with expectations and longs to find a better way.


Expectation:
a belief that someone will or should achieve something.
Hope: a desire for a certain thing to happen. A feeling of trust.

Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. Hebrews 11:1 NIV

I come by my ability to set high expectations naturally. It was the culture of my family and the church environment I grew up in. Now, whether they did that on purpose or not, I don’t know, I’m guessing they didn’t. But still, placing high expectations on myself and others is in my DNA. Hope, on the other hand, is not something I’m good at. But it is everything I’ve had to learn in order to survive these last few years.

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Pain Prompts a Process (and that’s a good thing!)

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Pain Prompts a Process (and that’s a good thing!)

 

 

 

 

 

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I’ve spent the bulk of my life doing my level best to avoid pain. I’m simply not a fan of it. The thought of experiencing physical or emotional pain flips my fight or flight switch on in a clock tick. Somehow along the way, I developed super-Spidey senses that alert me to incoming pain and I get busy to head it off at the pass.

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And The Ballerina Falls

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And The Ballerina Falls

I’m sharing a piece I wrote for Rebecca Bender Ministries, a ministry which exists to “raise awareness and deliver solutions to the growing epidemic of sex trafficking”. I pray that your heart hasn’t ever been dropped but chances are it has. I pray you can find hope in Jesus. “He was born in an unassuming manger to die on a cross intended for criminals. To fix what had been broken. To save the dance.”

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